I
don’t like waiting.
I
don’t like waiting and I’m not very good at it. I don’t have a lot of – what’s it
called again? – patience, that’s it. I don’t have a lot of patience.
People
are sometimes surprised to hear that. Some people have even remarked on my
patience, praised me for it. That makes me feel good, when that happens, it
makes me wonder if maybe I am patient after all. But just because I can fake
it, just because I can keep smiling while someone ahead of me at the Subway is
swiping their Metrocard five times to get through the turnstile, doesn’t mean I’m
patient. It doesn’t mean I’m smiling inside.
Patience,
waiting – these are not things that you associate with living in New York. It’s
the city that never sleeps after all, everyone is doing something. Diners, shops
even hairdressers stay open 24 hours a day. Trains glide into the station as
you jump down the final step onto the platform. The guy in the deli on the
corner makes your sandwich exactly to your specifications in record time every
time – and everyone else’s sandwich as well.
In
a city like New York it’s easy for the little grammes
of patience that you possess – that I possess – to somehow flitter away. I notice it in little things, silly things –
two people in a queue for the bathroom at Starbucks means I’ll leave and find
another one. A train in ten minutes means leaving the station walking the seven
blocks to the express stop.
Sometimes,
over dinner, I’ll tell my partner about these little details of my day and she
might laugh. She might ask why I wouldn’t just wait for the train, point out
that it will take almost ten minutes to walk to the 96th Street
station anyway, so I’m not really saving time.
She has a point, I know that. Still,
I try and explain it to her: how walking to another station is doing something
and doing something – anything – is better than doing nothing, better than waiting.
I explain it all as best as I can, but she doesn’t really get it.
Sometimes
I don’t get it either.
Today, right now, right this minute,
I am waiting. I am waiting for my publisher to send me through the final copy
of my latest novel to proof read. I’ve been waiting all week, or maybe more
than that. Maybe as soon as I hit the ‘send’ button and my copy edits were
winging their way through cyberspace, maybe my wait began then. Right now, it’s
11am here in New York which means there’s only another hour to go in Ireland before
the business day is over. And if I don’t get an e-mail with the proofs by then,
the rest of my day will be pretty free and I’ll be waiting for another whole
weekend.
At this juncture, I need to point
out that there is no urgency for me to receive this proof copy today. The novel
publication date has been moved until June so we have more time. More time is
good: more time means we will catch more things on the proof copies, fewer
chances of mistakes, more time to find the exact right shout line and tweak the
blurb for the back of the jacket. More time, in fact, is what I’ve wanted all
along, I was asking my editor for more time last summer, last autumn, last
month. And now I have it, I want it to hurry up and pass, but instead, I have
to wait.
This week – this wait – is what’s
really made me think about all this, my patience or lack of it, what it’s all
about. I started to see how obsessively I was checking my e-mail, skimming over
mails from friends and marking them ‘unread’ while I searched for my editor’s
name. Before I get out of bed, I find myself reaching for my phone, something I
usually never do before I meditate. And twice this week, after yoga, still in
the glow of Savasana, there I was, plucking it from my bag, pulling down the
screen to refresh my inbox even though it’s past midnight in Ireland.
On Monday, I talked to a friend
about it – a fellow writer and a musician – about this waiting, this obsession.
Rather than make suggestions about how to get my editor to reply quicker or
fill my time, she said something else - she asked how I was feeling. We were standing at the Subway station at 14th
Street and it was freezing. I dug my hands deep in my pockets. We didn’t have a
lot of time, it was too cold to hang around. I wanted to tell her the truth,
but it wasn’t sure what it was. I thought it about it and I guessed – I said it
might be something like sadness, it might be something like loss.
Under her big fur hood she smiled a
nice smile. She squeezed my shoulder, hugged me. “You’re grieving,” she said. “It
always happens to me when I finish something big. Have you never felt it when
you’ve finished a book before?”
I thought about her question the
whole way home on the train – the express train that I’d taken rather than hang
around for the local, even though it would bring me closer to home. And I
thought about it waiting on the lift in my apartment building, as I checked my
e-mail.
Four
days later, I’m still thinking about what she asked me –writing about it now –
to dig these feelings up, prise them out, so I can look at them more clearly
and find out exactly what they are. And I’m remembering my other books, the
process of finishing and how that rolled straight into the chaos of publication
– into PR and promotions and parties. And I’m thinking that in all of that, the
whirl of that, that these feelings – grief is surely too strong a word? - got lost, got buried, got hidden. And that
being hidden isn’t the same as going away.
It’s
coming up to twelve o’clock. She’s not going to send the proof today. She may
not send it on Monday or Tuesday either. She has other authors, other books,
other deadlines after all. There are other people who are waiting. It’s not
just me.
A
month ago, two months, seven months ago I would have looked at this future
version of myself with a free Friday afternoon in New York with envy. In
August, when I spent Saturdays at the library while my partner was at the
beach, in December, trudging past the Christmas lights of Bryant Park market
after a day of work to begin an evening of edits, I would have given anything
for a day like today. A day that I can spend doing my own thing, with real
people, rather than characters I made up in my head.
What
I am about to write next makes me scared that you will judge me or think I am
crazy, which is exactly why I know that I must write it. The truth is that I
miss them – those characters in my head. I miss their stories, their lives. I
miss the timbre of their voices and the scenes we created together. I miss Rhea
Farrell, my feisty seventeen year old protagonist. I miss the way she sees
things around her and the things she doesn’t see yet, and that only I know she’ll
see things differently in a few months, or a few chapters or a few pages.
Maybe that’s okay, to miss her – to miss them.
Maybe that’s part of it. And maybe it’s okay to feel scared too, about what might
happen to them next when the book is published, about whether critics and
readers and friends will like them too. Maybe that’s what this waiting is for
and maybe all of it, every single bit of it, is okay.
I’m
going to finish up there because it feels like the end and because I have a
Friday afternoon free with not all that much to do. I’m in Starbucks and I need
to use the bathroom before I leave and I’ve decided that no matter how many
people are in the queue, I’m going to join it. And I’m not going to check my
phone, or check my watch, I’m just going to stand there, breathing.
I’m
just going to just wait.
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